Marriage is a beautiful symphony. It’s more than ‘I do’. It’s a promise to grow, change, and stand together regardless of whatever life throws at you. At its heart, marriage is about partnership. Two people, often from different backgrounds, choose each other and share their lives, dreams, fears, and futures. At a time when divorces and separations are peaking, how does one lead a successful marriage, one that helps all the parties in it to evolve and find happiness?
Globally acclaimed therapist, best-selling author, and award-winning speaker Marisa Peer has shared some tips that would help lead a fulfilling life and marriage. With decades of experience helping individuals and couples around the world, Peer has shared three golden rules that will make your marriage a page out of a fairytale.
Best friend chemistry
Marriage is about companionship. So you want your partner to be your best friend. The heart connection is important. In a podcast with Ranveer Allahbadia, Marisa Peer stresses that a thriving marriage requires ‘best friend chemistry’. According to her, being each other’s confidant, cheerleader, and emotional support system strengthens the bond. Partners who laugh together, share values, and enjoy each other’s company tend to navigate tough times with greater ease.
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Sexual chemistry
The second essential factor, according to Peer, is sexual chemistry. Though physical intimacy is often overlooked, it plays a great role in strengthening your emotional bond with your partner. Sexual chemistry is not just about attraction but about feeling desired and connected on a deeper level. Communication is the key here. Talking about your feelings and desires, as well as maintaining the spark, is crucial.
Mutual admiration and respect
The biggest pillar of a relationship is respect and admiration. It’s a two-way process. This lays the foundation of a marriage. Respect is non-negotiable. “And you must really admire and respect the other person,” Peer stresses. She also adds that couples must learn to pick their battles, “because you’re bound to argue.” Arguments are natural, but focusing only on the issues prevents unnecessary conflict.
A marriage rooted in respect creates a safe space for both partners to grow. She also stresses the importance of understanding that “you’re never gonna get one person to meet all your needs ever.” Both parties have to work together. This will undoubtedly make the relationship meaningful.
Most important of all, marriage isn’t about one person. So both parties must be willing to put in the hard work and effort. Everything else will fall into place.